It’s my eighth wedding anniversary today, but my favourite picture of a truly memorable day isn’t a happy one, and not even really from the day itself. Allow me to explain…
Obviously lots of memories of a great day are very much on my mind, aided happily by my digi.me app serving up a plethora of pictures of a beaming couple surrounded by their favourite people.
I love those pictures too, but the one that is now one of my all-time favourite pictures didn’t surface until a couple of years later. It’s a terrible picture, of pretty much everyone in it, and is far from a reflection of the day, (or our overall photos to be fair) – but it is the one I post every year on social media for the comedy value, because it makes others smile as well without fail, and because – most of all – it makes me smile every time I see it.
Do I look miserable? Yes. My about-to-be husband? Yes, him as well – in fact he looks like he’s about to cry. My dad also looks very serious – and if you took this shot in isolation you’d think we were three people very unhappy about what was about to unfold.
In fact, I was nervous as anything and very wobbly, clinging on to my dad and James was, he tells me, overcome with how lovely I looked. We composed ourselves during the first hymn, said our vows happily and without duress, and the rest, as they say, is history.
But looking at it, and posting it, once again, to Facebook, it served as a very powerful reminder of how snapshots of our life can only be that – one frame in time.
To look back with clarity, depth and certainty on events, particularly as they get further away, requires a fullness of knowledge – multiple pictures, comments, snaps from friends – so that a snapshot broadens out into a jigsaw of memories more representative of the day as a whole.
In this way, pictures can enhance but also distort a memory – and only by taking all that is available and gathering it together can we get a true, overall picture.
And that’s what backing up our real life events and memories brings us – rounded memories to enjoy in future years.
So cheers to digi.me for doing just that, and here’s to the power of digital memories – the good, the bad, and the funny!